Where do your morals come from — your family? Your faith? Your philosophical worldview? How do you deal with those who don’t share them, or derive them from a different source?
Let’s just tackle this directly. I think everything starts from your family, how and where you grew up, who raised you, your religion when you were born, but all of that changes as you transition from child to teenager to adult. Then, you continue growing as you journey through different life arenas of your adulthood.
I, myself, admit to saying or commenting or writing about stuff in the past that if I am an influencer or a Youtube star or a celebrity, I’d be canceled by now. LOL. But this is what I always say, what I knew back then is not the same as what I know now. It may sound like an excuse but let’s not keep people from learning. It’s actually better than being stagnant and keep believing something even if you have been made aware that it is wrong. People change and I do believe that one’s views change as they grow older. Or even day by day, once they come across some new information. I saw this photo on Instagram a few weeks back that says, “Normalize changing your opinion when presented with new information,” and I agree with this 100%. This applies the most shallow issue, like if a certain actress can act or not to the most pressing issues in our world these days. I also believe that you need to keep people around you in check, even our parents who are older than us, those who grew up in a different generation. Maybe some of the things they say from time to time shouldn’t really be said anymore. As you change and grow, as you learn and unlearn, try to include the people around you. You can only do so much though. You can provide advice, try to educate people but at the end of the day, it is up to them whether they’d take it or not. Whether they’d change for the better, and I don’t think you should be dragged along with people who are not willing to change.
How do I deal with people who don’t share them? I report their tweets and block them. Hahahaha, kidding. I am always up for a good conversation, but if you’re not making any sense and refuse to accept any type of argument and resort to name-calling, then there’s no point in talking, is there? I pity people who feel so superior and are unwilling to listen or accept other people’s opinions. You don’t grow and you don’t learn with that kind of attitude. Yes, you will have your beliefs and I will have mine. But if another person is telling you something, don’t just shut it down right away, do your research, fact-check it, and then decide what you want to believe. Form your own opinion from that. Do not be a blind follower.
I think I also need to mention briefly since it was mentioned in the question (I don’t want to get into this so much, since religion is a topic that I really don’t like talking about) – your faith or your religion shouldn’t determine your morality. It is very complex, and I guess, sure, some of our beliefs may come from that but let us not base each and every decision we make from that alone. Because somewhere along the way, one will contradict the other and you will find that not everything that you learned from your religion is right.
Inspired by this ebook, “365 Days of Writing Prompts” posted here.